In 2 Chronicles 32:3 we read that Hezekiah “took counsel with his princes and his mighty men” when he heard that Sennacherib was coming up against Jerusalem. It could have been easy as a king to think that he needed to have all of the answers and solve all the problems himself, but Hezekiah showed wisdom in seeking the counsel of others.
Your problem with pornography is probably not something you want to be consulting a wide group of people about, but it could be worth at least having one person that you trust to confide in and seek support from. As mentioned in the section about “cutting off the supplies”, this person can do something as simple and practical as setting the admin password on your filtering software and agreeing to never let you know what it is. Most filtering apps also keep a log of all your internet usage, so it can be helpful to know that someone else can check at any time which sites you have been using online.
Who would be the best person to confide in about your problem? That will depend entirely on your situation. It could be your wife, a very close friend, an older brother in the meeting, a fiancée. Whoever it is, it needs to be someone you trust implicitly to keep your discussions and your struggles completely confidential. Think very carefully before making a decision, and make sure you ask for God’s help in making a wise decision.
If you have been approached by somebody to help with their struggle with pornography then it is critical that you take seriously the need to keep it completely confidential. Unfortunately some people think that keeping something confidential means that you shouldn’t tell more than one other person about it. Then of course that person thinks the same thing so they tell just one person, and before you know it half the ecclesia knows. If you are helping a friend with this problem then be a trustworthy friend and keep your discussions confidential.
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